Ladies, if you want to attract a man, you might be trying too hard.
Men aren’t that tough to figure out most times since unless a guy is anything but cisgender, he’s likely to be caught off guard by a nice pair of breasts and a fine figure. Hell, a friendly smile from a woman who’s kind, genuine, and yes, somewhat attractive, will have any guy eating out of the palm of their hand if they desire. There are plenty of us that are cynical enough to avoid falling for just any woman, and there are plenty of guys that will resist the charms of a woman just because they can. Of course, this often has a lot to do with the fact that there are some men out there who have been tricked and/or hurt by hot women in the past and aren’t willing or ready to trust any female as far as they can toss them. Yeah, it’s an odd saying, but I’m willing to bet a lot of guys would be willing to echo that sentiment.
But there are ways that women can get through to men, and they’re so simple that a lot of ladies might end up wondering why they didn’t think of them sooner. Ladies, we men aren’t that tough to understand, at least not until we’re given a reason to wall ourselves off and wonder why we can’t get a good woman, or at the very least, a woman who’s willing to pay attention to us. So many women wonder why they can’t find a ‘good man’ and why it would appear that all the good ones are either taken or gay. The trick to this isn’t always in how you dress, and it’s not even solely in how you act. It’s in letting the guy know that he’s valuable to you and that he’s the one you want to stay with for one reason or another, but solid reasons all the same. Guys want roughly the same thing as women, no matter what’s in our DNA, or how a lot of us decide to act. We want to be loved too, even if we’re not going to show our gratitude in the same manner.
If ladies want to attract a guy it’s not tough. But if they want to keep a guy, a ‘good’ guy, a ‘quality’ guy, then a lot of them appear to be missing the point as much as any man is when it comes to becoming happy and staying happy. The fact that so many people feel that they have a handle on the dynamics between men and women is amusing since it stands to reason that if that many people had a solid grasp on what it took to keep their man or woman happy, then the challenges and problems that exist at this time, and that have existed for uncounted years before now, would have ceased to exist a long, long time ago. Let’s be honest and say that men have caused a lot of issues over the years when it comes to relationships and how they’re run and how they’re valued. But ladies, let’s make no bones about it, you’ve done your fair share of damage, and you’ve done plenty of good over the years as well. But sadly, no one is perfect, and it’s not likely that the difficulty between men and women will end any time soon.
Should we get into it then? Here are ten things women can do to attract men.
Go ahead, be sexy, we enjoy it.
There’s nothing wrong with being sexy as hell, men love this, they like being able to see you at your best. It’s not mandatory to be fair, but let’s be honest and say that people tend to notice something that stands out from the rest of the things on the shelf. Don’t get it twisted, women aren’t objects, but at the same time, if they’re trying to attract a man, there are plenty of times when looking their best will allow them to attract a man long enough to see whether or not they’re compatible or not. Look sexy, but keep the substance you need to keep a guy around after he sees past your initial appearance.
Have a sense of humor and let it run wild sometimes.
One of the best things that any woman can have when it comes to attracting, and keeping, a man is a sense of humor. There might be plenty of men and women who would state that this isn’t quite as important, but if you can’t laugh at the juvenile crap that some men are into then you might need to adjust something and tweak your personality just enough to see the funny aspects of life. Seriously, learn to laugh at life and yourself if you can, you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the results.
Don’t be clingy.
There are times when you’ll have to accept that a man just isn’t into you. It’s possible that even if you’re sexy, hot, and have all the confidence you need that a guy won’t be ready to commit to a relationship, or won’t want you. This is where guys become a little more complicated since it’s tough for a lot of people to figure out why a man wouldn’t be willing to be taken by a beautiful woman who wants him. Believe it or not, men do want more than just a pretty face and a hot body. Don’t bother trying to cling to someone who doesn’t want you, the chance that they’re going to change just for you isn’t guaranteed.
Be confident in yourself and who you are.
There are a lot of reasons to be attracted to someone, but finding a person that is filled with confidence is sexier than many tend to believe. I don’t know about a lot of guys, but a completely submissive woman is no fun, and a woman that seeks to dominate anything and everyone around her is absolutely repellent to many men. Hey, if that’s your thing, then go for it and appease the man of your dreams in whatever way you want. But quite a few men prefer women who can hold their heads up and do their own thing without a man by their side. On the flip side of this, many men love this type of woman since it means that they’re a strong and capable partner that they can rely upon. A strong life partner is something a lot of men are ready to settle down with.
Don’t let jealousy ruin your relationship.
It’s funny how when men get jealous we’re often painted as insecure jerks, but if women get jealous, the guys are still jerks for pointing it out. If your man looks at other women it’s kind of natural, but if he looks at women in the way you want him to look at you, he’s either a dog that has no concept of the term ‘monogamy’, or you’re not doing something that he needs. Like it or not, men will look elsewhere to find what they’re not getting, kind of like women, and if the problem isn’t remedied quickly, you can bet that they’ll pull away. Being jealous only makes it worse since if you can’t allow your man to be friendly to women then it’s bound to send the signal that you’re possessive, you’re overbearing, and you see your feelings as more important than his. Let your jealousy fall away and you’ll be surprised by how your man responds.
Having an education isn’t mandatory, but it does help.
You don’t have to possess a Ph.D., or even have a college education to attract a man. But let’s make it clear that being an educated and intelligent individual does help from time to time. The misconception that men want ditzy women that are ready to worship them or at least see them as the best part of a woman’s life is harmful since it’s a lot of bs. Men do want women who can think for themselves, who can figure out life in their own way, and men do love a woman that can confidently state that she’s an educated and free-thinking individual. Seriously, you don’t need to go to Harvard to impress a man, but at least graduating high school, or knowing how to use a public library, is bound to improve your chances of being thought of as intelligent.
Let go of that ‘perfect man’ garbage.
There is no such thing as a perfect man, just as there is no such thing as a perfect woman. Yes, I did need to repeat the caption and I’ll explain why: people aren’t getting it. Okay, some folks get it, they understand that there is a perfect person out there for you, but they won’t be perfect to others. No one is asking you to lower your standards, but letting them soften a bit sometimes might be wise since in any other case there’s a good chance that you won’t ever find the man that you think is absolutely perfect, because your personal view of perfection is not attainable by a lot of men that you might actually be able to live with.
Being in shape is a good way to get attention.
Not every woman needs to be a buff, toned athlete, a supermodel, or even someone that can run a mile or two without breathing heavy. Being in decent to good shape however is still beneficial and can lead to a lot more men noticing you. I get it, not everyone can attain this kind of shape or even drop the pounds that accumulate so easily. But this is where confidence comes into play, as knowing that you’re doing your best to look your best is bound to go a long way.
Recognize when they’re trying to be nice/romantic.
Ladies, we can be idiots. Yeah, you read that right, and I’ll say it again, we can be utter morons when it comes to romance, and there’s a good chance that one way or another, your selected man will make a mistake now and then when it comes to being romantic. We’re not all Don Juan and we’re not all bound to be the type of guy that will leave you breathless with each word and basking in the attention you want. We’re going to be stupid at times, but if you’re the one for us, we’re going to bend over backward to do what you want. So cut us just a little bit of slack when it comes to romance and you’ll see a return on your emotional investment that will make it all worth it.
At the end of the day, be you, we enjoy that most of all.
Guys know that this could backfire on them when it comes to telling a woman to be themselves. We get it. But ladies, you need to be who you are. Don’t grow cold because you figure it teaches us a lesson. Don’t be a simpleton because you’re trying to build us up. Just be there, be yourself, and men will respond. We’ll be wary at first and think that the other shoe is going to drop soon, but seriously ladies, if you treat us guys with respect, you’ll receive that same respect multiplied a few times over if you get the type of guy you’re really looking for. There are plenty of ‘good’ guys out there still, the only trick you need to learn is to be yourself and be accepting of guys as they are. Men do respond to this, believe it or not.
WTR? (Why’s That Radass?)
Ladies, if you want a ‘quality’ man, then learn to understand what quality it is you’re really seeking. Tend to your own attitude before you go looking for a man that has the type of attitude you’ll put up with. Men will respect you for a lot of things, but creating a list that no man can adhere to isn’t one of them.