Being yourself is fine, but there are a few tips men could benefit from.
Attracting women isn’t as easy as some guys make it sound, especially considering that a lot of guys still believe that most women prefer assholes. The truth is that yes, some women do prefer dickheads that will treat them like crap, for some reason. But a lot of women do want the good life, some just compromise and figure that they’ll deal with the garbage to get the good stuff. A good woman won’t compromise in this manner, but she will tend to want the better things in life, though she’ll gladly give up a lot of stuff for a guy who treats her like a queen. The thing about this though is that a good woman, as opposed to an opportunist, will treat a man like a king if he shows her this kind of respect. It’s easy to hear the laughter of many people who call bs on this idea, but it’s true.
Women want to be treated like queens and princesses, even if they don’t admit it. But finding the good women, the ones who are tough but gentle, intelligent and powerful but feminine and willing to treat their man right, is up to the man’s general attitude and overall personality. In other words, guys, if you want a good woman, you’ll need to earn it. Thankfully, there are a lot of ways to do this.
With that in mind, here are ten ways to attract a good woman.
10. Be a thoughtful individual
No, this doesn’t mean being a deep and thought-provoking individual. You can be that way and still not be thoughtful since what’s meant is to be attentive to a woman’s needs. Understand what she wants, what she values, and what is essential in her life. This blends into many of the other points on this list since it means comprehending who she is and what her life is about. A man shouldn’t need to know a woman inside and out, there does need to be some mystery. But showing that you’re ready to know everything you can about her is very attractive to women who want to share their lives with another person.
9. Manners go a long way
These days it almost feels as though manners are outdated and thought to be uncool. You know, kind of how happiness was thought to be uncool during the grunge era in the 90s. Obviously, neither were universal feelings, but in this day and age, manners go a long way with those who know how to value them. Say such things as ‘please’, and ‘thank you’, and you’ll see how far they can go. It’s not about bowing and scraping to the woman, it’s about treating her like a human being and showing that you were raised to respect others.
8. Be open to the family dynamic
Even if you have to work yourself into the idea of helping to create a family, it’s wise to enjoy your own family. Women love this, it shows kindness, caring, emotional stability, and the fact that you love someone besides yourself. On the subject of getting married and having kids, not everyone is going to agree that this is the path, but things change. If the woman is someone you care about, it’s fair to state that your mind will change eventually, even if it’s not instantaneous.
7. Learn how to show your softer side
It’s tough for a lot of guys to show anything resembling vulnerability since from a classic standpoint, we’re expected to be tough, resilient, and, in a sense, emotionally invincible. It’s not possible, everyone has their breaking point after all, but a lot of guys feel that it’s a sign of weakness to show anything soft or otherwise vulnerable. But again, women like to know that even if you look like you’re carved out of rock, there’s a soft spot in there that they can identify with and enjoy. A guy can look like a 90s superhero and still have a soft and squishy side like a Care Bear, and women will love this.
6. It doesn’t pay to be a dumbass
It’s not necessary to be able to receive pi to multiple places, but being able to hold an engaging conversation about, well, just about anything is attractive to many people. It means that the individual speaking is aware that there is a world outside of their own experience, and that they know enough to talk about it. Again, a guy doesn’t need to be the smartest person in the room, but the ability to speak in full sentences about one subject or another that might be of interest to a woman is far more appealing than trying to make idle chitchat with someone who knows next to nothing about anything.
5. Find a way to make her laugh
Laughter is highly underrated at times. There are still a lot of guys who don’t want women laughing at them (even if they won’t admit it), which means that they’re hesitant to make the ladies laugh for fear that it will mean they’re being ridiculed. The trick, however, is to sharpen your wit and find ways to make a woman laugh with you, not at you. Women love to laugh, and they love to enjoy a great sense of humor that can balance the seriousness of life with humor. If a man can make a woman laugh in a genuine and pleasing manner, then he’s doing something right.
4. Women like adventure
Trying new things is a bit scary for some individuals since some folks cling to routine and don’t like when a little chaos is invited into their lives. But women crave variety at times, and this helps to keep things moving forward, since allowing them to stagnate is one reason why people get bored. But one thing to keep in mind is that you don’t need to climb a mountain or spend a lot of money on an adventurous vacation. Just be open to new experiences and willing to see what the world has to offer from time to time.
3. Sharpen your leadership skills
Being a leader isn’t easy, but it’s vital to control your own life and inspire others to do the same. Not only that, but the confidence that comes from learning how to lead others is very attractive to many women. Ladies happen to love a man who is self-assured, comfortable in his own skin, and decisive enough to guide others in a positive manner.
2. Listen…no, really, LISTEN
Out of all the differences that exist between men and women, this is one of the most important since women do talk A LOT more than men. It’s not sexist and it’s not an exaggeration, the fact is that women typically do talk more than men. Unfortunately, men tend to tune women out at times since they don’t want to deal with the constant chatter. What attracts women, good women, who have something worth saying more often, is a guy who does listen to her and doesn’t make talking a competition as he tries to get a word in. To put it lightly, listen to the woman, and take into account what she’s saying.
1. Resourceful men attract women…it’s true
Men don’t need to know everything, but knowing how to get things done and access the world in useful ways is helpful. Women want to know that they’re going to be taken care of, no matter if they have to do it or if they want to depend on someone else. The act of being resourceful, in other words, knowing how to be independent and when to admit that you need help, is a very attractive quality that too many guys don’t place enough value on. Learn how to keep your life on an even keel and women might take note.
WTR? (Why’s That Radass?)
There are a bunch of ways that men can attract a good woman since ladies tend to love feeling secure, loved, listened to, and will respond favorably when they find someone who will treat them right. The difference between a good woman and a toxic woman is simple: toxic women want the assholes that will give them the conflict they desire. A good woman will understand how she wants to be treated and is typically looking for someone to share their values with.