It’s been a struggle since the dawn of time.
Since the dawn of time, the necessity of being able to attract the opposite sex has been a major issue with most individuals. The effort needed to gain the attention of a woman is something that most men would agree is at times a great burden and yields results that can vary in many ways. No matter how nice one is, or how courteous, the outcomes of such efforts are rarely ever guaranteed.
One has to wonder then how the men that have little to no problem picking up women do it. Is it wealth, or being handsome, or a quality that is not so easy to see but is somehow sensed by women? Why would those men that are insufferably arrogant have more luck than the men who would gladly treat women with little more than kindness? Why would an overabundance of confidence eclipse the desire to honor and love a woman as she deserves?
Every question ever asked by a man seeking the gentle attention of a woman boils down to just a few simple tips and tricks that are easy to learn and almost guaranteed to work. With the proven methods in this article, you will find yourself able to finally get into a woman’s mind and figure out what she wants. By doing this you will eventually realize that you’ve had the tools to get what you wanted out of a woman all along, and will finally be able to do something with it.
Each section is designed to tell you how to look, how to react, and will give you a better chance of understanding what women want and how to read them in order to get what you desire.
So let’s get started!
Look your best and definitely smell your best.
How you look, smell, and appear to others does have some bearing on whether or not people want to be around you, women especially. If you have severe body odor or don’t bother running a brush over your teeth in the morning it’s likely that anyone invading your personal space won’t be a problem. Like it or not, women often take a very dim view of a man that doesn’t entertain the notion of taking care of his personal hygiene.
The way you dress can also be an indicator to women of whether or not you’re worth hanging around. Even to the most laid-back individual in the world, someone wearing stained boxers and a yellowing t-shirt likely won’t be the ideal person to shack up with. Women desire a man that not only smells good and looks clean, but also knows how to dress. If you already know how to dress for success then you’re doing something right. You don’t have to possess the body of a Greek god to attract women, but it does help if you know how to take care of yourself and at least present a confident front that shows others that you are aware of how you look.
It might seem silly at times to have to pretend to be something you’re really not, but in truth, you’re not pretending, you’re building an image. And in another sense, you’re throwing up that front to change the attitudes of those around you. In short, you’re playing a sort of mind trick upon women that is almost guaranteed to work. It might take more than one time to make this particular trick take effect, but as Joshua Pellicer would claim it is highly effective and can negate all but the most extreme physical and social failings that you might possess.
It might take more than one time to make this particular trick take effect, but as Joshua Pellicer would claim it is highly effective and can negate all but the most extreme physical and social failings that you might possess. So long as you keep it clean, keep yourself groomed, and wear clothing that shows at least some taste, women will take note. You might not get a second glance as often as you’d like, but all in all, you’ll at least be getting looks from women that probably wouldn’t give you the decency of an eye roll in normal circumstances. So long as you keep it clean, keep yourself groomed, and wear clothing that shows at least some taste, women will take note. You might not get a second glance as often as you’d like, but all in all, you’ll at least be getting looks from women that probably wouldn’t give you the decency of an eye roll in normal circumstances.
So long as you keep it clean, keep yourself groomed, and wear clothing that shows at least some taste, women will take note. You might not get a second glance as often as you’d like, but all in all, you’ll at least be getting looks from women that probably wouldn’t give you the decency of an eye roll in normal circumstances. It’s amazing what a shower and nice clothes can do to alter your appearance. It’s even more amazing what it can do to the mindset of those around you that might have already made the assumption that you’re not worth talking to. While appearance alone isn’t enough to bank on, it’s that initial look that allows people to make the assumptions that they will work with until they get to know you.
It’s amazing what a shower and nice clothes can do to alter your appearance. It’s even more amazing what it can do to the mindset of those around you that might have already made the assumption that you’re not worth talking to. While appearance alone isn’t enough to bank on, it’s that initial look that allows people to make the assumptions that they will work with until they get to know you. If you give them a reason to wonder and perhaps even think that you’re worth the trouble of a second glance you’ve already done something right.
- Wear a scented deodorant
It’s been scientifically proven that women go nuts for men that smell nice, and not just because of the odor. Knowing that you smell good will give you an air of confidence that women absolutely love, even if they won’t admit it. You’ll walk taller, have a little more swagger in your step, and present an air of superiority that you might otherwise be lacking.
- Eat a lot of garlic.
This might seem kind of confusing since most people would avoid garlic before a date or when you need to be around others.
However, many studies have proven that women actually prefer the smell of garlic on a man. Keep in mind that good hygiene mixed with garlic would be a lot more preferable than BO and garlic mixed together.
Keep it classy, not gassy.
- Grow some light facial hair.
In keeping with statements made by Joshua Pellicer and Derek Rake, both of whom discuss the secret to attracting women, the trick of facial hair is to not let it grow out too long, but to develop some serious stubble that can help to accentuate your features. To many women, stubble says dominance, experience, and a slightly aggressive manner that can be more appealing. While women don’t necessarily want to be dominated, they want a man that can be dominant and present an air of confidence that is ultimately attractive.
- Show your scars
Now, this doesn’t mean strip down to show an appendix scar or anything else that might be off-putting, but anything above the waist that is minor enough to be displayed should be done so with pride. To women, this shows that you’ve had a rough life, faced adversity of some sort, and come out the other side walking tall and unafraid to show the damage that’s been done. In other words, it shows that you are confident and strong enough to overcome almost any challenge, and that is a decided turn-on for many women.
- Stay physically fit.
You don’t need to be a gym rat or a bodybuilder to attract women, but in all honesty, women do go nuts over a man with some toned meat on his bones. Even the strongest-willed women in the world want someone there who can share with them, serve as a protector when it’s needed, and present an air of confidence that they find so necessary. In case you missed the point so far, a lot of what women want is a sense of confidence and a dominant display of masculinity that is not overbearing but pleasingly attractive.
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- Be confident.
No matter what you do, hold your head up high, your back straight, and put a little swagger into your walk. Women will take notice.
- Practice good hygiene.
No one wants to be around someone that stinks, woman or not. Take a shower, brush your teeth and hair, and pop a breath mint if you need to.
- Be proud of your body.
If you have blemishes or scars don’t bother hiding them. If you show no outward sign that it bothers you the chances are good that they won’t bother anyone else.
Personality does matter.
Now that we’ve gotten past the initial impression that your looks can give, let’s delve a little deeper into the mix and talk about your personality. You might be one of those unlucky men that believe women like arrogant and confident men.
Well, you’d be half right.
You know why women go towards the men that eventually treat them like dirt, right? A lot of men would look at that type of situation and probably think that the guy had something that they didn’t, and they’d be right. While an arrogant guy that has all the swagger and seemingly all the women he can handle would appear to have all the luck, the truth is that they’re typically trying to cash a check that their odious personality can’t cover. They’re confident, they know how to talk to women to get their attention, and they know how to appear appealing, but after that, there’s little substance left over.
The trouble with this is that by the time women realize this sad fact, they are hooked and can’t seem to get away no matter how much they try. That charm that such men exude, which is usually false bravado layered with self-confidence, is more than enough to snare some women and make them think that they can change the more negative aspects of a man. It’s a psychological trap that some men use to snare women and keep them in their control, and unlike what Rake and Pellicer would like you to believe, it’s not always that effective.
With all due respect to their processes, a man with a charming personality and a sense of personal style is a rare gem that, when found, is among the most prized individuals in the world. Just like a woman bearing the same traits, men that care about others, genuinely listen to what people say and actually show a bit of sensitivity are quite special in many ways.
Believe it or not women like a sensitive guy.
They want you to be dominant, capable of being forceful when it’s warranted, but when in private or when desired they melt when you become the sensitive, puppy-loving type that will escort an old grandma across the street or watch a chick flick late at night. Women eat this kind of stuff up, and will go out of their way to keep you around should you divulge that you possess such qualities.
Here are a few other personality traits you might want to think about when it comes to attracting a woman:
- Make them laugh.
It’s been said so many times in so many different ways but still bears repeating: women love a man that can make them laugh. Sometimes laughter is the best medicine as the saying goes, and sometimes a good chuckle can ease the tension you might feel on a first date. In any case, humor is a good way to slip your way into a woman’s good graces. Not only does it reveal that you do in fact have a sense of humor all your own, but it also shows that you care enough to find a way to lighten up the mood and allow them to feel comfortable around you. A good laugh can be the gateway to an even better night.
- Take your dog on a walk.
It sounds so simple, right? You might be asking yourself why this doesn’t work all the time or why you haven’t thought about it until now, but just wait a second. For one, it’s not a guaranteed, slam-dunk technique that can get a woman to like you, but it can go a long way. If you’ve accomplished everything in the first two chapters then your chances will go up considerably if you’re seen to be actively walking a dog and taking care of your canine companion’s needs. Women find this incredibly sensitive and will eat it up without fail.
- Become a volunteer.
There are so many opportunities to volunteer your time in so many different venues that it’s almost impossible not to find a place to donate your time and effort to making people’s lives better. It takes so little time and effort to really get into and more than that, it allows a woman to see that you care for another’s needs rather than just your own. Remember earlier in the chapter when you read that women like to realize you’re sensitive and caring? Taking the time out of your day to show that you care about someone else will be a surefire way to display that you’re not selfish and can be counted on to be a reliable and very conscientious person.
- Become a music lover, or a musician.
Now it’s easy to understand that becoming a musician is not easy, nor is it something that is cheap to invest in. But that investment can really pay off if it helps you to become more appealing to a woman. For whatever reason, women are drawn to musicians. Each woman will say something different when explaining why they are drawn to men that can play an instrument. For example, if you are asking a woman for her phone number you are far more likely to actually get it if you are carrying a guitar slung over one arm than a gym bag. It’s a phenomenon that has been scientifically tested and shown to be quite accurate most times. So what’s it meant to be a musician? It might mean that you can get a date whenever you want. Show your sensitive side to a woman and you’ll be much more likely to see her eyes widen with pleasure as well as desire. Remain the strong, dominant character that they are attracted to in order to get their attention, but also know when to pull out the softer side that loves animals, can play at least a few good chords of music, and doesn’t mind sharing his time with others. The results should speak for themselves rather quickly.
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- You don’t need to be too sensitive.
Some women might like a guy that can bring himself to cry, but there’s no need to be a gusher. In other words, if you need a box of tissues during a particularly sad movie you might be showing a little too much sensitivity.
- Pay attention.
Women like a guy that’s mindful. If you can show that you’re taking time out of your day to care about theirs, or anyone else’s for that matter, then you’re more likely to keep their attention on you.
- Find humor in a variety of things.
You don’t have to be the next Jim Carrey or even Seth Rogen, but you should be able to find enough humor in life to make them laugh occasionally. If you hear that sweet laughter more that you can join in with then you’re doing something right.
- Be genuine.
This means be honest in other words. If you have a dog, then walk them because they need it, not just to meet women. If you want to play an instrument then learn, don’t just carry a guitar around over your shoulder. To attract a woman you need to be honest with them and yourself.
Having a stable paycheck does help, believe it or not.
You might hear a woman say that this isn’t as important, and while that’s encouraging, secretly every woman desires their chosen mate to be somewhat successful and influential outside of their relationship. It’s that confidence and aggressive quality all over again, as this can lead you to become successful if done right. Status and wealth shouldn’t define precisely who you are, but they can help in attracting the type of woman you want. The trick to this really is to actually possess some status and wealth in order to get the woman you want. Hard work, a willingness to sacrifice time and a few other things along the way, and the necessary education that can help you gain that desired status will all be aspects of this attraction that can help you to appear as though you know what you’re doing.
There are also other factors that can help, and we’ll go into those now.
- Wear something red.
I know, this seems like something we should have covered in chapter one, but hear me out.
The color red has long been known as a status symbol among the rich and powerful. In the modern-day, it’s taken on a few other aspects, but the bold hue of a nice red suit, jacket, or even a car can denote that you are in some ways edgy, wealthy, or even slightly dangerous. All of these traits possess the inherent ability to present a challenge to women, which is often one that they tend to respond to by paying attention to you. It’s odd, it’s a bit off the wall, but somehow it works.
- Try to appear your age or a little older.
Once again, this might seem it belongs in the first chapter but think about it for a moment. Have you ever seen how many women tend to go for older guys? Even if it’s not a trend in your town it’s a thing somewhere else. Older men tend to project the air of financial stability, experience, and a different outlook on life that isn’t all about looks or even money.
They’re confident in life because they’ve done it, seen it, and women can tell just by looking. If you look a little older, more distinguished, there’s a chance that women will begin to notice you a little more.
- Heighten your status by walking the walk.
In other words, look high profile and women will think twice about just passing you by. Even if you’re not as wealthy as you look, women will tend to at least give you a second glance and perhaps even decide that you’re worth talking to.
- Try to find someone that’s “in your league”.
This sounds horrible really, as it seems intent on telling you to settle and don’t reach for your dreams. But in truth, it recommends trying to find someone that is just as attractive as you are. Don’t bother going for the supermodel when you can get the girl next door, who might be prettier than you might have originally believed. This does two things: It can save you the hassle of wondering whether or not a super-attractive girlfriend will trade up when she finds someone she likes better, and it will save you from thinking that you settled for someone just because you were afraid to go after someone as attractive as yourself.
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- Present yourself in a confident and professional manner.
You can go back to your jeans, sweats, and other comfy clothes once you’ve established a decent relationship. When you’re looking for a date though it’s wise to at least make an effort to show women that you can in fact look like you’re worth more than just a few bucks.
- Don’t settle.
If you know who you want to go after, or the type of woman you’re looking for, don’t settle just because you haven’t found them. Dating isn’t like fishing as the players and pick-up artists would be heard to say, it takes time and effort to find the right woman. The adage that there are plenty of fish in the sea is fairly accurate, but don’t pull up a lungfish when you’re hoping for a sexy tuna.
- Be confident in what you have.
So you’re not a millionaire, so what? If you are happy with what you have and confident about how you earn it women will come to appreciate that. If they don’t, then you haven’t found the right one yet.
Putting it all together and final tips
By now you’ve been made privy to a few things you should have known and probably a few things you didn’t. There are still a few tips that you can learn from in order to attract a woman and make certain that they’ll give you a little more than just the time of day. What you need to remember most of all is to be bold, be clean, and be confident. If you can keep those thoughts in mind then you’re already way ahead of the game. These added tips are just ways to ensure that women will continue to think that you’re a good and honest guy.
In order to keep women thinking that you’re an all-around good guy, try these following steps:
- Be the nice guy.
You might have been indoctrinated by now to believe that nice guys finish last, but this just isn’t the case. They have to work harder sometimes thanks to the arrogance and childish ways of other men, but they don’t always need to compete with that type of garbage. Just be the kind, gentle person you know you can be, and women will notice. Be confident, but be nice about it. Be aggressive, but be nice. The only time you have to worry about being too nice is when you feel that size 9 pump pressing down on your back as you’re used as a doormat.
- Be aware of the flirting.
Some women are not all that obvious about it. Let’s face it guys, sometimes women want men to be mind-readers and this just isn’t going to happen. Instead of taking up any New Age book about reading thoughts however just pay attention to them. If they smile at you, smile back, if they sit closer to you, don’t move away. Be flirty, let them make the first move, and by all means respond, don’t just ignore them and don’t be coy. They are flirting for a reason, and you should be flattered first and excited second.
- Be mindful.
It can’t be stressed enough to pay attention to the woman that takes the chance on you. Listen to what they have to say, take notice of their appearance, their speech patterns, EVERYTHING. It’s all-important and it’s all worth noting if you find yourself attracted to them.
If all you’re doing is staring at their body then you earned that strikeout.
- Be daring.
Women like men that present a little bit of danger if not a lot. It’s a form of excitement and can bring a flush to their cheeks as they think of how brave you must be.
While it’s not something they willingly admit to at all times, most women are excited by men that engage in dangerous sports and activities, finding that they are drawn to the danger and the thrill.
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- Be a little dangerous.
This doesn’t mean go out and be stupid. But definitely try to spice up your life a bit with a few daring activities. It will get you noticed more than you think.
- Listen to the woman.
Don’t be a slave and don’t be a yes-man. Listen to them and pay attention to show that you care about what they say, not just how they look.
- Be nice.
Don’t be a doormat, but be the nice guy that is dependable and can be relied on.
Just a few reminders
Ultimately you are in charge of how you go about attracting a woman. By taking these steps you’re at least on the right track to finding a date, or maybe a long-term relationship.
What you need to remember is that women like nice, confident, and trustworthy guys.
Don’t be the jerk that uses women because he loves having that kind of power. Be the man that loves women and wants to prove he’s worth their time. You’ll have a much better chance of landing the right woman.
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